In Grief

Don't try to be with the person who died. Just be with their death.

Rest in the death, the absence of your beloved.

The overwhelming gift of being with death is this: it is not only your loved one's death, it is your death too.

Death is the void. The void is infinite. The infinite is the field of possibility. From this vast negation creation is born.

On Easter morning, in the garden, Mary Magdalene reached out to touch Jesus, who was dead. He said, "Do not cling to me."

Do not cling to your beloved, who is dead. Instead, just rest in their absence. Rest in their death.

This may sound terrible, but it is the only way through grief, because grief is the gateway to Presence. And only in Presence, where there is no past, no future, will you meet your beloved, who is right here.

This is a mystery. I am with you.